Someone asked me, What does it mean to be “emotionally connected”?
Your emotional health factor plays a very large role in all healthy relationships. If you are not emotionally connected to your spouse for instance, then your sex life will be at risk for becoming mechanical. Living this way for most becomes such a habit that you no longer notice if you are emotionally connected to your spouse or not. Neither of you have any other expectation because it’s ‘normal’ and conditioned, therefore being disconnected is satisfactory to you.
What if you are in business? If you are not emotionally connected to anyone in your work then your days will be filled with transactional conversations. Unfortunately none of them will mean anything but dollars to you. Sure, the money feels great, but there might still be an emptiness lingering around your heart that you can’t explain.
If you are an intellectually locked person, then there will be an element of “You scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours” in everything you do. People may avoid you because of it. This disconnect between your head and heart may translate into thoughts like bribing your kids to do their chores, telling your wife you’ll let her go shopping if you get to watch the football game all day Sunday, letting your neighbor borrow something because you know you’ll get something out of it. Your entire life may be transactional, mechanical and very un-fulfilling.
Being emotionally connected means to connect both logic and compassion. It means you are transparent, open, honest and can take criticism. It means you are willing to allow yourself time to slow down, to talk to those around you as if you really care about what they are saying. Being emotionally connected means showing a genuine interest in the lives of other people whether at work or at home.
Re-connecting would bring about tremendous healing but most people would prefer their comfortable state of nurturing the pain as opposed to connecting to freedom, but again, and of course its also the ‘how’ that may be missing.
There is no time like the present to begin learning. My free book, “Why Keep An Elephant On Your Bed” can help you get started, (you sign up for it on the right) but just setting the intention in your mind to start being more emotionally connected from this point forward will help you increase your personal value.
We all have potential to enjoy MARVELOUS relationships no matter who we are….and it all depends on how ‘potent’ you are being in your relationships and how well you define emotional connectedness for yourself. Love involves you, but it’s not always about you.
I hope that answers the question.
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