Public Speaking Tips That Make A Lasting Connection
Have you been taught that speaking intellectually is all that is needed while presenting to your audience? We’ve all heard a number of people who are not connected to their hearts while speaking, and sadly, the great disconnect happens. If you are a speaker who is “disconnected” this will be evident to your audience as well.
Here are some questions to determine how well you hold the attention of your audience as a public speaker.
1. When you take a break do people applaud your return in a rousing way?
2. Are audience members drawn to you during breaks or after you are done speaking?
3. How many of them want to become your student, client or member after your presentation?
4. How many calls do you receive to do another presentation or to tell you how much they enjoyed your presentation?
If you are connected to your heart, you will be connected to your audience. If you are connected to your audience, they will be connected to you.
Below are ways in which you can take time to connect to your heart before you present.
1. Spend time in quiet relaxation and reflection before speaking. Clear your mind to where you can hear yourself breathe.
2. Feel your topic. Remember how it can help others and how it’s helped you. Feel how others will increase by what you are going to share with them and see it happening in your mind’s eye.
3. Be grateful and happy that you have studied it, learned it and now you can teach it to others. Have a faith that brings about a new burst of confidence.
4. Be yourself, whether dry or funny, just be who you are and speak from your heart.
5. Appreciate the opportunity to be there and openly show your appreciation to your audience.
The great disconnect is non-discriminating and it expands around the globe. This is why there are so many would-be great speakers disconnected from the abundance in their lives as well as their audiences. Without a heart connection, the brain will have intellectual challenges because the brain is the control center that shoots your emotions into action.
It’s time for you to gain more supportive actions by moving into your heart to become the best possible speaker or presenter you can be. If you learn to connect to your heart, it’ll change much more than just your speaking ability, it can change your life.
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Do I “Have” To Emotionally Connect On Social Media Sites?
An individual on my Tele-Seminar calls asked:
“How do you connect with so many people on Social Media at the same time and still have relationships?”
Each of us can determine what type of relationship choices we’re going to make. First understand that you DO have choices.
If I make this statement: “I have to gain more followers on Twitter and Facebook or I won’t be well known among my colleagues or able to sell my products.” Then I have already put pressure on myself to force my way into the lives of others and will end up making huge social media mistakes!
Whenever you say “I have to” do something or “I need to” do something, you remove your ability to make the choice for yourself. Say, I “choose” to because I want to not because I have to. Choice allows you the freedom to feel more empowered. Even the creator gave us the freedom of choice – so give yourself permission to choose!
In my own social media circles I choose to reach out to everyone as though they were my closest friends. Does that mean I am close friends to all of them? No, it’s not possible when I have thousands of followers between Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and so on. I am selective with those I choose to be close in relationship with but I still reach out to everyone in a friendly and caring way. Those relationships that I choose to nurture I do so by staying in personal contact with.
The last thing I want to do is make all my social media connections transactional; meaning look at them as though they are only there to gain more clients or more business through.
When I first started out, because I believed what others told me about social media, I felt as you do, that it was over whelming and I couldn’t keep up. I was also taught to promote to my followers rather than be concerned about relationships. This will bring you conditional success. Sustainable success is where you choose, and where you will grow.
It wasn’t until I turned my conditioning around and began bringing great value to my social media followers that I understood how easy it was to sell because they believed in what I was doing and more to the point – so did I.
I would encourage you to do what feels right to you, but first and foremost give yourself permission to choose, (in every area of your life) and you will find the pressure of feeling like you have to do anything start to dismantle. I’d also encourage you to bring as much value to your followers as you can. Share quotes, find news worthy information, a great inspirational video, a link on occasion to your posts or products.
You will eventually see that you no longer have to “try” to be friends with everyone, you automatically become so when you contribute to their well being in what you say and do.
Entrepreneurs Self-defeating Moments – Tips To Getting Motivated Again
I met with a client who was experiencing what nearly all entrepreneurs do no, matter how rich or how famous they become.
The overview below are my suggested tips to help him become an Athletic Coach while working through those tough self-defeating moments. I believe these tips can help anyone no matter what they are wanting to do.
1. Create a plan – either draw it out or write it out, but without all the small details. Knowing the ‘HOW’ is not important at this moment, only knowing that there is a plan. If laying out a business plan seems daunting right now, consider how a contractor would not build a house without first having the plans in front of him to do it. What parts do you lay out first? What next? Chaos would surely ensue if the contractor tried to tell his employees how to build the house without plans to show them. Start your business with a solid plan.
2. Spend time in continual belief – praying can be continual thought, so whatever thoughts you have intend them for continual prayer. It isn’t only about bending your head and closing your eyes when you have quiet moments. God will bless you for releasing all that you think is within your own control. Remember you already have what you need within you. For now, take time to release anger, competitiveness, negative thinking, any thought of un-forgiveness, and accept that everyone is doing the best they can with what they have been given, including you. When you can keep this in your mind you will find life make more sense. Spend time on releasing every day by focusing on the healing of your heart NOT the anger, negativity, etc. Focus on what gives you peace, love, success, forward momentum, being organized, etc.
3. Allow God’s energy to flow through you – like being in a canoe flowing with the current – your head and heart will work together in harmony when you understand the flow.
4. Set your intentions – if you say, “I will do the dishes” that is an intention with great possibility of action. If you say, “I know I need to do the dishes.” You set in a thought of procrastination. Your mind will only move toward what you intend to do.
5. Establish a weekly call for accountability with other coaches, sports related entrepreneurs (or people you know who have similar goals) and brainstorm ideas about what each person is doing. You can do this during an hour call or meet once a week. There is a format to this and you can google ‘guideline to mastermind’ to choose what feels like a good fit for your desires. The term ‘mastermind’ mean simply a group of people who create things.
6. Lastly, when you have money to exchange hands with, that is the time to hire a coach who can bring you to the next level. For now, if you take these steps, you will bring out the best coach imaginable within yourself. No, you can’t do it alone, so get to work on finding other entrepreneurs who want accountability. They are out there and just waiting for you to ask them. Who knows, you might even find them at the gym!
If you feel this will help other entrepreneurs you know please share and comment!
Mohammed Ali And My Change Of Heart
Many years ago, we lived down the street from Mohammed Ali’s home. My children would often sit at his gate just waiting to catch a glimpse of him.
One morning I went to work and picked up the faxes that came to me as usual. There was one hand written message on one fax that said, “Please be sure to pick up Mohammed Ali at the airport in South Bend.”
I’m not sure who the fax was meant for but surely it wasn’t for me. It must have been for his body guard I thought. I contacted the phone number at the top, again by fax, and let them know they had faxed it to the wrong number and they would need to retransmit it for Mr. Ali to have transportation.
A few days later I had to pick my husband up at the airport in South Bend so my children and I anxiously went to greet him. As my son opened the automatic door there stood Mohammed Ali as big as life; waiting for his ride, whom I presumed was someone who did not get the fax. I was shocked. Immediately I recalled the memo and I now felt responsible for this odd circumstance, as if I should have followed up on the message to be sure he had a ride home, after all, we DID live right near him!
I looked at my pre-teen son and his mouth was literally hung wide open. His feet were frozen in place, in the middle of the opened doors.
Mr. Ali smiled at my son, who hadn’t budged from the open doorway, and lifted a shaking hand to wave to him. He could see the shock in the boy’s face. I put my toddler down and asked Mr. Ali if I could assist him with his brief case as he was heading toward the later stages of Parkinson’s Disease and the case looked heavy. He shook his head no and smiled warmly but set the bag down. It felt so strange to think I could have been the only person who knew why he was still standing there waiting for a ride.
I said, “Brady, why don’t you move from the door and come say hello to Mr. Ali.”
My shocked son still couldn’t move, or close his mouth. Mr. Ali and I began to laugh. I asked him if he needed a ride home and explained that we lived very near to him and it would be a priviledge to give him a lift home. He shook his head no and smiled kindly at me. He explained, as best as one can with Parkinson, that someone was coming for him in a few minutes.
My son was still standing in the same spot. I tore a piece of paper off one of my note pads in my hand bag and asked Mr. Ali if he would be so kind as to autograph this torn paper for my statue in the doorway. He laughed, sort of giggled, and shook his head yes.
He then motioned to my son to come near him so he could use his back as a table to write. My son’s face was purple by now but he obediently walked up without saying a word and bent down. All the boy could muster from his gaping mouth was, “Th-th-th-anks.”
There was so much love in Mohammed’s eyes as he went the extra mile for my sweet stunned boy. He then bent to touch my little girl’s cheek so I picked her up and he leaned in and kissed the same cheek. Never in my life would I have guessed this burly iconic boxer had such a gentle soul. I shook his hand and kindly thanked him. We lingered to be sure he did get his ride and then left to pick up my husband.
That was one of the oddest meetings I’ve ever encountered. It was obvious to me that I was meant to meet him at that time and no one could convince me otherwise. But why I wondered?
The Ali’s have since moved to AZ, where Mohammed is fighting his disease, but that meeting left an impression in my mind.
All too often we are taught to believe a certain way about someone, and that belief is often quite inaccurate. Since we don’t know the heart of any individual, only God does, we often judge others based on what we’ve been told, or what we think we see. My perception of Mr. Ali was a rough man who couldn’t possibly have a tender side to him.
Never again did I make a judgment call about another individual’s character without getting to know them myself. The ‘WHY’ became very clear. It was a great lesson for me, and an amazing experience for my son…
And to think it all started with a wrong number and a memo. 
Do you have an experience about someone that left an impact on your life? Willing to share it here?
Men’s Brain’s and Woman’s Brains
Mark Gunger, a very funny International Speaker, has a website called www.laughyourway.com and here is a link to a minute for marriage audio that might make you smile. http://www.laughyourway.com/better-marriage-minute/
Marks says that woman’s brains are like super highway’s. When it’s on it sounds like this: chicachicachicachica…. while it’s working, which is just about every minute of every day. We think about our kids, our friends, our spouses, what to make for dinner, whether Suzie has her homework, if it’s going to rain or snow, whether politics is something we enjoy or dismiss, etc. etc.
Every moment of every day….which means even during the romantic times guys.
Men, on the other hand, put their thoughts into compartments like little boxes. Mark says there is a box for work, one for lawn care, one for finances and kids, one for sex, and there is even one that is called…my personal favorite……the nothing box!
So ladies, what this means is, when you ask your man what he’s thinking and he says, “Nothing.” He REALLY MEANS NOTHING!
Often, he just wants to be left alone to play solitaire or watch football and seriously think about nothing.
In working with couples for the past 5 years and I can assure you, there are a good deal of men and women who would agree with this theory of the super highway and the nothing box.
So my question is… do you agree?
Five Keys for Marketing Your Book
by James Malinchak
The key to success of your book lies with marketing. In marketing, you must understand that “perception is reality.” The image you create through the perception of the public and media determine the success of your publicity. Here are few guidelines to help create a positive, marketing image for any book:
1. Belief: To create a positive perception and convince the media to publicize your book you need to believe that your idea will become successful, even if others don’t. Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen, authors of “Chicken Soup for the Soul”, were turned down by many publishers who didn’t believe in their idea. But they believed in it and built it into a #1 New York Times Bestseller.
2. Enthusiasm: “Enthusiasm is contagious!” To gain public awareness and publicity you must be enthusiastic and energetic about what you promote. Tony Robbins is a great example of someone so enthusiastic about his ideas and products that millions believe in him. Thus, he receives worldwide media coverage.
3. Develop a “Hook:” To stick out in the media’s mind you need a good “hook.” Develop a creative, unique title or marketing campaign. For example, Dottie and Lilly Walters’ fabulous book title, “Speak and Grow Rich”, serves as a unique “hook” that separates their book from others on the topic of public speaking.
4. Network: In our society, who you know gets you ahead faster than anything. You never know who is influential or who knows who. In the case of the media, many reporters, radio hosts, and TV producers know others in the same field. Be kind and courteous and remember to send thank you notes to anyone who helps you. This demeanor will create a positive marketing image for you and your book.
5. Persist: If you truly have the belief in your book then don’t stop marketing, promoting and selling your idea until you reach the level of success you desire. Don’t allow rejection and obstacles to convince you to quit. Obstacles are what we see when we take our eyes off of our goals.
Speaker James Malinchak, ‘The Big Money SpeakerTM,’ is the creator of the two top-selling speaker courses, ‘How to Make BIG Money As a Speaker,’ and the ‘College Speaking Success Home Study Course.’ To learn more about his step-by-step systems and to sign up for his FREE ‘Speaker Tips’ E-zine, visit: www.MillionaireSpeakerBootCamp.com
Is There Anything You Hate NOT Doing?
In anticipation of knowing what you LOVE to do, I’d like to ask you to think about those things you don’t like, hence, becoming more aware of what you love and what you might have the ability to create if you focus on it.
A friend of mine said, “I became dogmatic toward the things I enjoyed doing, until I discovered what I hated, and it motivated me toward what I really love.”
If you struggle coming up with things you love to do, here are my personal transparent examples for you:
I hate not being with my children whom I love deeply. They live out of state and as much as I would love to have them near me, I realize its good for them to be away. I wouldn’t want to invoke my expectations or dreams on to them when they have plenty of their own to fulfill. So when I visit, I enjoy them tremendously without extra pressure.
I hate not reaching out to others when stuck behind my computer all day long. My life is a brand of its own, a lineage of the natural ebb and flow aspects in human behavior. Building relationships and connecting is what I do best, hence, my books, audio’s and other products have come out of this desire.
I hate not being funny or laughing my head off. Life is serious enough, its very important to learn to laugh at your self and enjoy laughing with others. I don’t think I’m very funny, but I want to develop that skill, so I hang out with funnier people than I to learn.
I hate not being technically advanced because I get stuck so often, just within my own mind sometimes. If I stayed stuck I would get no where, so I think about it’s solution and head in that direction.
I hate not being able to help the millions of people who are starving or need clean water to drink. This needs to change today not tomorrow. Enough said on that subject although I could go on forever about it being a distribution problem not a problem of lack. I want to create wealth in my life to distribute wealth to others.
I hate that people hurt one another. We need to understand that our tongues are the deadliest relationship weapon of all. We need to use them to uplift and not tear down. I work on me, you work on you.
I hate that fear keeps people away from the one thing that can create an abundant life for them. A head and heart connection removes fear.
It makes sense to me that using this negative can bring some pretty positive and creative ideas and I’m sure I can think of plenty more, but I’d like to hear from you. What is it that you hate NOT doing?
7 Keys To Happiness
What if I told you that you hold the key to making this world a better place?
I have a child who is still young enough to be influenced by you. How are you going to influence her? Every single one of us can change the world, can change how the universe is affected by the actions we take.
What actions are you taking to make a difference to the world?
The following information is so valuable, and so key to living, that I needed to recount the principles I’ve heard great speakers talk about.
1. Being Responsible – No one really understands what it means. One side is blaming, the other is saying its not their fault. I’ve had some tragic things happen in my younger years but I see where I made choices that led me to those very things that I didn’t want or like. Being responsible means making better choices.
2. Seek Wisdom – I’m not talking about education. Real wisdom is rare and comes to us by the associations we have and how closely we let it sink in. If you invest in yourself, your time with God, your moments of creative ideas, you’ll see that the one investment you can control is yourself. Seek wisdom with all your heart.
3. Be a Person of Action – If you think this is easy you are not a person of action. A butterfly can move their wings at a vibrational rate of one million flaps per second. One man can make one move and it can make a difference in the entire world. Every single action makes a difference to everyone you know and every one around you.
4. Have a Decided Heart – Talking to your friends and family about your decisions before you make it, then after you make a decision is you analyze it and go back to ask if it was the right decision! Decide what you want and go after it.
5. Choose to Be Happy – you have so much to be grateful for. If you’ve ever traveled to different countries than you know how much you have to be grateful for. I’ve seen children pulling food out of dumpsters to eat and then being beaten by authority for begging to eat. If you’ve washed your hands with clear, clean water today than you have something to be grateful for.
If there is a huge relationship killer that is simple to do it’s this one. Smile while you talk. People can’t help but smile back at you when you are smiling at them while you talk. Practice it! See what you look like. This is one of the biggest secrets to success if you’re willing to choose to be happy when you talk.
6. End Each Night With a Forgiving Spirit – You are not required to trust someone who has hurt you. You can choose to hold on to an unforgiving heart and have your entire body, mind and spirit in collapse. Your relationships will suffer, your business will suffer, everything suffers. Forgiveness brings perspective, a new perspective can bring calm, calm brings ideas and ideas bring success. All from the choice to forgive.
7. Persist Without Exception – If it were easy everyone would be doing it. When coins drop you’ll dive to get them because anything worth going after is worth hitting a wall over. You will never lack in money, time, leadership. It is only ideas that you are lacking. Stay strong and persist.
These simple tips are well worth incorporating in your life.
It will bring back new life to you, not keep you dwelling on the old. It’s not about what your parents did or did not do, whether you were poor or wealthy, or whether you are educated or not. How you think will drastically change how you feel. Take steps today to improve your life by deciding to live your best!
Chances are I don’t know you, but even so, I want you to have enough faith in what you are capable of doing to get you through today with confidence and joy. If I want that for you, as a total stranger, imagine how much more your creator must want for you?
Multiple Sources of Income Taught With Ease
Who taught you about earning a passive income for your family? There are lots of people teaching methods that can often make you feel you only care about the dollar when it comes down to it. This wasn’t true for me and I finally did something about it.
Fortunately, there are people who come along in life that give you new hope and you recognize that their values are in alignment with your own. Their names are Judith Sherven, Jim Sniechowski and Tom Justin.
- They took me step by step through understanding a complex idea and made it easy to earn a passive income.
- They taught me to understand how to show people love and respect while marketing and remembering what you hope to achieve.
- They taught me how to express what I wanted to do for my niche and how to speak about it in a way I feel confident.
- They helped me to understand that you don’t have to be a hard selling kind of personality in order to help others.
They are changing the world of marketing…literally… without pounding it over anyone’s head or making you feel confused or gut wrenched.
Their latest book, “The Heart of Marketing” was written by Jim and Judith who are best selling authors. They’ve been on Oprah, the Today’s show, as hosts of radio shows and yet they still teach in a humble and loving way along with their terrific partner Tom.
For me, kindness is what consistently drives me to do what I do for others. I care about you to, and about the fact that you want to have an income that is ethical, moral and kind. Getting a check in your mailbox, without clocking in at a job you can’t stand, is one of the best feelings one can have. I want you to have this opportunity to see their program if you want another income source.
Just share from your experiences, like what I’m doing right now, and feel confident that you’ve given the best information available to those you care about. Simple! Safe! Affordable! If you DO sign up for this course, let me know and I’ll also send you my free E-book “Why Keep An Elephant On Your Bed”. Those who have read my book have learned a lot about acquiring their dreams instead of letting invisible elephants keep you from them.
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