Entreprenuers – 11 Principles To Live By

Entrepreneurs that practice attitudes of love typically flourish in every aspect of their lives, including finances. The more families focus on these important principles the more they’ll benefit by them.

There is another saying, “What is in the heart eventually comes out of the mouth.” This is biblical truth. Negative thoughts lead to negative feelings. Negative feelings lead to negative reactions, which eventually are voiced to those closest to us.

Below are positive declarations. See if any of the negative messages after the declarations apply to you. Do you live by attitudes of love every day or do you expect others to meet your needs?

1. I HONOR YOU BY HONORING MYSELF, AND OTHERS, WITH LOVING ATTITUDES. Do I have an attitude of gratitude or one of complaining?

2. I VALUE YOUR OPINIONS EVEN WHEN THEY OPPOSE MINE. Do I force my opinions on others? Do I always have to be right? Is it “my way or the highway”?

3. I CONTINUE TO SEEK WAYS TO GROW EMOTIONALLY TO BETTER OUR RELATIONSHIP AND MY OWN HEALTH. Studies show that emotional health leads to better physical health and financial health. As a man thinketh.

4. I AM FORGIVING AND DON’T KEEP A RUNNING SCORE OF WRONG DOINGS. Does bitterness keep you locked up? Do you make a list of those who hurt you and how many times they did it?

5. I PLAN AT LEAST ONE FUN EVENT EACH MONTH AND SMALLER ONES DURING THE WEEK. Have you ever thought about how important it is to set aside 5% of your check each month just to do something fun with your family? Anthropologist and social scientist Margaret Mead presented her cultural findings to the American people stating, “children find inner joy when they are taught to work hard and play hard”. By spending quality time with children working or enjoying fun activities together (eating together, talking, playing games) that the children learned to love and value cultural history.

6. I EXERCISE TO AID IN A HEALTHY MIND AND BODY. Scientists have proven that being unhealthy leads to a short life. Find an exercise routine, even if its only 10 minutes a day. It’s a start!

7. I FIND WAYS TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU. Communication is NOT as natural to most as it is to some. It takes work. Learn through coaching, books, internet, mentors, and keep practicing!

8. I FIND WAYS TO FEEL INSPIRED & GRATEFUL. If you live without imagination, or feeling sorry about what you don’t have, you are missing opportunities to be grateful for what you do have.

9. I SHARE PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES. Insist on accountability, for yourself and your family. If you don’t, then your children will see it, react to it, and learn not to obey when you want them to be accountable for something. They learn from you. Learn what accountability means to you.

10. I WILL FOCUS MY MIND ON MAKING MY SPOUSE’S LIFE EASIER. Do you wake up in the morning to ask yourself, “What would make my spouse’s life easier today?” If you are focused on your self then there will be no room for thoughts of your spouse.

11. I GIVE YOU THE FREEDOM AND SUPPORT YOU NEED TO GROW OR ENHANCE YOUR PERSONAL OR BUSINESS OPPORTUNITIES. Definition of Support = “To sustain, withstand, endure, undergo, to bear or hold up, to collaborate, advocate, to maintain.” Any questions?

If you can get your mind right, your heart will make better decisions relationally and financially. Each of the statements above hold a decision for you to make. If you regularly shy away from responsibilities, even without purposefully deciding to do so, realize you are not alone. Most of human existence has been lived in an unconscious state of mind because of the great disconnect between the head and their heart.

Is it possible to bring the badly needed connection to a conscious level? DEFINITELY…IF… you focus on what you want. A better relationship with God, family, wealth, any of it can be yours if you keep persevering and working toward your goal.

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“I Want To Give You The Desires Of Your Heart”

The Bible says that God wants to give us the desires of our hearts; he didn’t put any restrictions on that statement other than we understand the desires cannot be sinful.  What might be one person’s desire, another person might judge as sinful based on their belief system, or religion, as in the eating of meat or working on another man’s Sabbath.

By allowing fear or doubt to cross our minds are we short circuiting what God wants to give us?

What would have happened if every time someone came to Jesus asking for healing He doubted that he was able to provide it for them?  Would those miracles have happened?

We are told that we can do greater things than He and yet we can’t get past the fact that it’s actually permissible to have desires.   How could we possibly believe that we are capable of doing greater things?

Many do not believe that we are given permission to have desires, or to follow up on those desires with faith and actions. Many feel it is selfish and ungodly to admit a desire that might elevate them to a new level of success, belief or authenticity. Why?

Could it be fear?  God said He does not give us a spirit of fear and yet we produce fear for ourselves every day.  Afraid of divorce, afraid our kids will stop loving us, afraid of financial pressure, afraid of the economy, afraid of backing the president’s decisions, on and on.

Fear is what collapse societies.  Fear has built in us the inability to have pure unadulterated FAITH.

If fear, money or time were no object what would you desire right now?  Who would you desire to be?  How differently would you desire to live?  What would your life look like if you took the time to hear what God might be telling you about your level of faith in Him to give you the desires of your heart?

Dispel your fears by learning how to rise above them, over come them, work through them, release them, what ever you want to call it, just do it.  Seek Him with all your heart…with ALL your heart… and you will find new desires fill your soul like a flood, without any fear or doubt, that they can and will come true.

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Domestic Violence

I wrote this article after talking to a woman who kept going back to her abusive husband over and over again.  It was apparent that she felt no sense of self worth after being raised in an abusive home, and now she was teaching her two daughters the same behaviors but she couldn’t see it.  Until parents can advance in their own personal courage, they can’t teach their children to be responsible or accountable.  They can and will perpetuate the fearful patterns of an unworthy lifestyle.

And so, I wrote the following article.

There are two kinds of people: those who want to find a solution to a problem they own, and those who want to find peace from someone else’s problem.

When you grow up in an atmosphere of domestic violence it seems very “normal” to live in an uncontrolled way. Hence, it isn’t surprising that if you came from an abusive home and have ended up in a relationship that is also abusive, that clearly you can’t see how you are responsible for how others treat you or that you are accountable for acting on it. You don’t know what you don’t know.

Most people think they understand what it means to be responsible and what it means to be accountable, when in fact, they were never taught. Abusive homes do not teach responsibility or accountability effectively because it takes a level of civility.

Responsibility is the obligation to act; accountability is the obligation to answer for that act. Until you understand what they both look like, it would be hard for you to see your choices clearly enough to stop running from the problem.

Examples of responsibility:

• A particular obligation by one who is responsible – caring for the needs of children.

• Reliability or dependability – meeting debts or payments.

• Choosing to do something based on one’s own initiative or authority – getting out of a bad situation.

Examples of accountability:

• To demonstrate or exercise the responsibility for a specific act – seeking ways to find help.

• Improving the achieved goal and being rewarded for success – finding an atmosphere that is pain free.

• An obligation to report on following through with responsibilities – getting an accountability partner who can help you stay on track with your goals.

Now that you know the difference, what is your next step? Choose this day to be responsible for a particular action. Act on it before the end of the day. After acting on it, reward yourself for being accountable on performing the action. It all starts with making one decision and doing it to the best of your ability. Repeating the choice with similar actions can, and will, change your life.

7 Keys To Happiness

What if I told you that you hold the key to making this world a better place?

I have a child who is still young enough to be influenced by you.  How are you going to influence her?  Every single one of us can change the world, can change how the universe is affected by the actions we take.

What actions are you taking to make a difference to the world?

The following information is so valuable, and so key to living, that I needed to recount the principles I’ve heard great speakers talk about.

1.  Being Responsible – No one really understands what it means.  One side is blaming, the other is saying its not their fault.  I’ve had some tragic things happen in my younger years but I see where I made choices that led me to those very things that I didn’t want or like.  Being responsible means making better choices.

2.  Seek Wisdom – I’m not talking about education. Real wisdom is rare and comes to us by the associations we have and how closely we let it sink in. If you invest in yourself, your time with God, your moments of creative ideas, you’ll see that the one investment you can control is yourself. Seek wisdom with all your heart.

3.  Be a Person of Action – If you think this is easy you are not a person of action. A butterfly can move their wings at a vibrational rate of one million flaps per second. One man can make one move and it can make a difference in the entire world. Every single action makes a difference to everyone you know and every one around you.

4.  Have a Decided Heart – Talking to your friends and family about your decisions before you make it, then after you make a decision is you analyze it and go back to ask if it was the right decision! Decide what you want and go after it.

5.  Choose to Be Happy – you have so much to be grateful for. If you’ve ever traveled to different countries than you know how much you have to be grateful for. I’ve seen children pulling food out of dumpsters to eat and then being beaten by authority for begging to eat. If you’ve washed your hands with clear, clean water today than you have something to be grateful for.

If there is a huge relationship killer that is simple to do it’s this one.  Smile while you talk.  People can’t help but smile back at you when you are smiling at them while you talk.  Practice it!  See what you look like.  This is one of the biggest secrets to success if you’re willing to choose to be happy when you talk.

6.  End Each Night With a Forgiving Spirit – You are not required to trust someone who has hurt you. You can choose to hold on to an unforgiving heart and have your entire body, mind and spirit in collapse. Your relationships will suffer, your business will suffer, everything suffers. Forgiveness brings perspective, a new perspective can bring calm, calm brings ideas and ideas bring success. All from the choice to forgive.

7.  Persist Without Exception – If it were easy everyone would be doing it. When coins drop you’ll dive to get them because anything worth going after is worth hitting a wall over. You will never lack in money, time, leadership. It is only ideas that you are lacking. Stay strong and persist.

These simple tips are well worth incorporating in your life.

It will bring back new life to you, not keep you dwelling on the old.  It’s not about what your parents did or did not do, whether you were poor or wealthy, or whether you are educated or not.  How you think will drastically change how you feel. Take steps today to improve your life by deciding to live your best!

Chances are I don’t know you, but even so, I want you to have enough faith in what you are capable of doing to get you through today with confidence and joy.   If I want that for you, as a total stranger, imagine how much more your creator must want for you?

Multiple Sources of Income Taught With Ease

Who taught you about earning a passive income for your family? There are lots of people teaching methods that can often make you feel you only care about the dollar when it comes down to it.  This wasn’t true for me and I finally did something about it.

Fortunately, there are people who come along in life that give you new hope and you recognize that their values are in alignment with your own. Their names are Judith Sherven, Jim Sniechowski and Tom Justin.

• They took me step by step through understanding a complex idea and made it easy to earn a passive income.
• They taught me to understand how to show people love and respect while marketing and remembering what you hope to achieve.
• They taught me how to express what I wanted to do for my niche and how to speak about it in a way I feel confident.
• They helped me to understand that you don’t have to be a hard selling kind of personality in order to help others.

They are changing the world of marketing…literally… without pounding it over anyone’s head or making you feel confused or gut wrenched.

Their latest book, “The Heart of Marketing” was written by Jim and Judith who are best selling authors.  They’ve been on Oprah, the Today’s show, as hosts of radio shows and yet they still teach in a humble and loving way along with their terrific partner Tom.

For me, kindness is what consistently drives me to do what I do for others. I care about you to, and about the fact that you want to have an income that is ethical, moral and kind. Getting a check in your mailbox, without clocking in at a job you can’t stand, is one of the best feelings one can have. I want you to have this opportunity to see their program if you want another income source.

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Are You Aware of These 2 Mistakes of Pride in Your Relationships?

There are two types of pride; obvious and hidden.  Allow me to define each with an example from my younger years of playing softball.

I use to be a pitcher for my hometown league in Washington State. Whenever I made a double play, I would make sure everyone saw it by shouting, “Did you see that?” If they had not, I would describe it to them in detail so they knew how “awesome” it was.

That would be an example of obvious pride. It means drawing attention to yourself or to your abilities.

I wasn’t the greatest hitter so I’d often strike out. When this happened I would sit on the bench and sulk, or feel sorry for myself while inside I wanted to quit. This is an example of hidden pride. Self pity, being sulky, or moody, and wanting to give up.

I hope the differences are clear.  These two types of pride are very damaging to others around you and it is quite possible to have both. This is what pride often says to others about us:

* I am wanting them to recognize my rights, my wants, my needs or my desires

* I try to make my opinion known because I have a lot to say and I’m usually right

* I have to win no matter who stands in my way

* I think my needs are more important than others and I’ll stay quiet until someone recognizes it

Ask yourself how pride might be controlling your life. The only way you’re going to know is by spending time listening to your inner voice.

The opposite of pride is humility. Being humble does not mean being a door mat. It takes retraining your brain to move beyond prideful moments and it means loving others as we would love ourselves. You might start by asking forgiveness from those you live or work around. The reason? This takes humility.

Why is it So Hard to Ask a Heart-Felt Question of Someone You Love?

Asking a question that comes from the heart sometimes takes courage.  Does it make you feel awkwardly uncomfortable or like you might be imposing?  Perhaps you think you might be viewed as too touchy-feely, or that someone might judge you as being too nosy?  These fears can keep us from showing someone we really care.

If you understand that your thoughts turn into words, your words turn into actions, and your actions turn into results, you will realize how easily you can communicate simply by asking the right questions.  It might not happen right out of the gate, but if you’re desire is sincere in getting beyond fear and turn it into faith, then you might be surprised to see how simple it really is to get someone to open up to you.

What do we normally ask when we see someone looking upset?  “Is everything okay?” or “Are you alright?”, which will typically generate a yes, or no, response.

If the answer to that question comes back as a “No”, then what is next question we typically ask?  “What’s wrong?”

If the individual doesn’t know what’s wrong, or is feeling hurt, then the conversation will likely end with a “Nothing” or “I don’t want to talk about it.” response.

Most people, particularly teenagers, will respond this way if they are not comfortable with the person who asked them.  Often people feel you are just being polite but that you really don’t want to hear it.  Which sends a message of  ‘I really don’t care.’

Lets move past the “Nothing” response.  Here is one simple question that can bring anyone from their head into their heart.  “Is there something troubling your heart?”

This question causes a person to; think before they respond, allows sincerity in to the conversation immediately and it almost instinctively forces the hearer to decide if they want to be deeply honest with themselves or you.

This one question is tender-hearted and being tender-hearted isn’t for sissies.  On the contrary, it takes a lot of courage to be tender toward others and it’s one of the most loving things you could do for them.  So get your teen, your husband or wife, your business partner or anyone you care about to open up.

Love & Finances… what about them?

I’m pretty sure you’re wondering what love has to do with money just like I use to. If this saying is true for you, ‘the way I do anything is the way I do everything’, then how you love might also have something to do with your financial situation. That’s nonsense! You might say…

I’m not saying that you have to love in order to be wealthy. There are plenty of wealthy people who are very unhappy or unloving, but who wouldn’t want to be wealthy and feel loved and accepted daily?

My family practices the attitudes of love listed below so we can flourish in every aspect of our lives, including our finances. Are we perfect at it? Not in the least. But the more we focus on these things, instead of who’s to blame for what, the more we’ll benefit by making them become habitual.

There is another saying, “What is in the heart eventually comes out of the mouth.” This is solid truth. Negative thoughts lead to negative feelings. Negative feelings lead to negative reactions, which eventually get voiced. If you don’t think your attitude has anything to do with money, think again. To read more…“Click Here“

Living on Less means saying NO!

Do you ever hear yourself say, “We can’t afford it.” Or “How should I know what happened to all the money!” or how about this harsh comment, “If you were contributing to the family instead of spending all our money we might actually be getting somewhere!”

If you ‘think’ you are doing fine, but do not know in a dollar amount just how you’re really doing, then keep reading…

If you want to understand why you’re having issues keeping money, then you have to understand your money blue print. Are you typically poor with numbers? Had a hard time with math? Don’t care to learn how to balance a check book? Have a spouse you can depend on? These thoughts are really excuses and will keep you locked in your bad habits until you unlock your thoughts and bring them into a state of mind that says I CAN learn how to do this if I put my mind to it.

Are you waiting for your spouse to be on board with limiting family spending? Let me say this loud and clear…DON’T WAIT! It took my husband 25 years to agree with me about budgeting and by the time we did agree, we were in debt. If your spouse refuses to be accountable for their spending, then it’s possible they are fearful of the outcome and would rather stay in the dark. You can sit down and figure it out by yourself. OH YES YOU CAN!

If you don’t have receipts to use or a credit card statement to refer to, include your spouse in the calculations by asking how much he/she might spend on gas each month. Its not a time to get them defensive, its a time to work together so no accusations or blame is allowed during this time. Simply, where did we spend this amount, or how much did we spend on that?

Do not make any more excuses! Getting a clear picture of what you spend your money on is the only way you will help yourself and your family out of any financial hardship. At www.liveforeclosurefree.com I give you free expense sheets to help you calculate your expenses under the article Living on Less…

Try a NO-SPENDING WEEK……just to see how much money you actually save in that one week’s time. Add it all up and if you did well, do it again and again for one entire month. Let me know if you try this by posting to this blog at www.kelliefrazier.com .

It is vital that you consider diversifying your savings position. If you are able to save, you will want to consider more than one savings plan such as an IRA or a 401K account. There are many other forms of investing and you can seek the advice of a professional financial planner in your area before making a choice if you feel more comfortable.

This next suggestion might seem preposterous if you feel you don’t have enough money for yourself, but giving money, or time, away to others has taught my family to be less selfish. We see the results of others being fed, having heat, feeling loved or cared about. And we have never, and I mean never, gone without our needs being met, no matter how much money or time we gave to someone else. If you feel giving your money to charity isn’t an option for you right now, you can give your time by volunteering for worthwhile charitable organizations.

Spending may be addictive, but so is saving. You CAN DO IT, and you have to start by not allowing any more excuses. It isn’t easy, but it is well worth every effort you put into it. Don’t allow your brain to tell you don’t need to do this. It isn’t up to your old brain any longer. It’s that old way of thinking that has told you to keep yourself in the dark about your finances. Start today to train your new brain to tell you to get yourself OUT of the dark and into the light.