When Your Income Remains The Same – What to Do to Increase It – Success Pillar Nine
For years I wondered why I made more money, and had more promotions, than many of my co-workers and associates. I did not believe this was not an arrogant thought, it was just a very curious thing to me that made me wonder. I knew I wasn’t smarter, friendlier, more efficient or more talented than they were, I simply wondered how did it happen?
I once took a position as Assistant to the Vice President of a University and felt amazingly blessed to be there. While having lunch with some of my co-workers one afternoon I was asked how I got the position. Before I could answer, one of my friends piped in and said, “She does the little things very well and asks for more when she’s done, it’s just that simple!”
I was surprised, and SO thankful that she jumped in with such a wonderful response, because I was about to say “I knew the secretary to the president very well.” That was a turning point for me. I saw how much of an impact her answer on our other co-workers and realized, she is right, I did do those things.
This is the reason I write books like Vision~Power~Action – Your Bluprint to Sustainable Success, and why Jim Rohn and Chris Widener write books like Twelve Pillars. They change lives.
Pillar Nine:
Your Income Will Seldom Succeed Your Personal Development
I’d like to share one example of those ‘detailed things’ my friend mentioned in hopes that you’ll find a take-away from this post that is easily applicable to your own life.
There was a phone system at the university that was high tech in its day but the directions to use it were horribly challenging to read. My co-worker in the next cubicle was an older person and I helped her to figure it out almost on a daily basis. I didn’t mind it, but it meant stopping what I was doing each time to assist her. I thought about how my ‘helping’ her was actually keeping her from learning on her own and I didn’t want her to be dependent on me. I heard these words in my heart…
When you can figure out a way to teach people to fish rather than supply the fish on a long term basis you will teach them to live with greater human dignity, not just look for the handout.
I stayed after work one night to completely figure out the system so I could type up short cuts that would be much simpler for her to use, and perhaps would save us both time. When I was done I looked at what I had made and thought it was good. I recall wondering if that is how God felt after creating the entire world.
The next day I handed the instructions to my friend who said. ”I can’t believe you did that for me.”
She told our co-workers and eventually others began to ask for the short cuts as well. I found myself handing them out to the 6 secretaries on that floor. They were so impressed that it was eventually printed in the back of the university directory for the entire university and the following month and I was asked to give a workshop on the Meridian Mail system to teach the university employees. I was given a raise shortly thereafter.
This ‘system’ if you will, of giving to others has served me very well, and it will you to when you figure out that we are here to share Vision, Power and Action with one another every day of our lives.
Jim Rohn and Chris Widener wrote a simple book on understanding simple concepts and I think out of all of the pillars this is my favorite.
I made more wealthy friends in this past year than I have ever known in my entire life, and not a single one of them are wealthy for the sake of money. They are wealthy because of what that wealth allows them to accomplish with their lives. They realize money doesn’t make them problem free or able to live without discomfort or disease. They realize there is no security in money and that it could disappear over night. It didn’t take long for them to understand that money does NOT make the world go round.
My friends are influential because they did what I did in that story above, they created something out of nothing, gave it away to those who needed it for free, and eventually got paid for doing it.
What I learned from my own experience back then was that it wasn’t the raise that created the joy inside me, although it was a nice side benefit, it was the confidence it gave me to do the same thing again and again.
Read this quote from one of the most influential speakers Jim Rohn from his book “Twelve Pillars” on pg.89
“After you become a millionaire, you can give it all away because what’s important is not the million dollars; what’s important is the person you have to become in the process of becoming a millionaire.” Jim Rohn
You don’t have to give it all away. The point he was making is that you could if you wanted to, because you know how to get it all back again.
So here it is – (drum roll please)
- Find a need
- create the solution to fill the need
- give it away for free
- and you will eventually be compensated for your efforts.
That’s it! Does it take more than just staying after work for one night simplifying something complicated? Sure! It might, but the key is to find the need you are to fill. It’s important to have a vision of what you want to accomplish to fill the need of course and my VPA Radio Show may help with that every Friday evenings at 7pm EST. Just log into http://motivational-radio.com and you’ll keep your personal development growing.
Thank you for dropping by. I appreciate you so much! Do comment and retweet if you feel this post was helpful. If you want to read the previous Success Pillars see below.
Abundant Blessings,
| Kellie Frazier is a Wife and Mother, a Radio Show Host on Motivational Radio, an Author and Speaker of Vision~Power~Action, and a Tele-Seminarian with a passion to make a difference in the lives of others. She teaches visionaries how to connect to their dreams, find inner strength in God, and motivate themselves toward action. If you would like to get her Connecting Secrets Package plus her 5-day Interview Series of "Leaders who Know How to Connect" delivered to your email inbox for FREE, simply fill in your name and email address in the boxes to the right --> |
The Secret Power of Sales is the Heart Connection of Life – Success Pillar Eight
Talking to an expert in sales was not my “thing”. In fact, if someone tried to sell me on a product before establishing a relationship of some kind my ears would close off automatically, as if it were a preconditioned response. Well…perhaps it was preconditioned.
I’ve come to understand that unless a person speaks from their heart about themselves and/or the ‘why’ behind what they are selling, they may know little about increasing the lives of others with intention. All too often we’re so busy trying to make a living selling a product that we forget to ask whether it will bring increase into the person’s life or not.
Pillar Eight:
All Life Is Sales – The Power of Persuasion & Influence is talent and virtue
In the Twelve Pillars, written by Jim Rohn and Chris Widener, they refer to Sales as being ‘all of life’.
Sales is influence, nothing more, nothing less. Rohn and Widener say that in order to influence others you must become a person of talent and virtue.
So how do you do that?
Lets first understand that talents are your gifts and virtue is your character.
The definition for Talent is; special natural ability or aptitude: as in a talent for drawing as an example.
The definition of Virtue is; moral excellence; goodness; righteousness, moral and ethical principles: as in choosing high integrity for instance
As we grow – we hone our skills, we create more opportunities for ourselves by sharing what we learn, but amidst all of it – others look to us for guidance or recommendations. This is the power of influence.
You were born to influence!
Have you ever noticed how much influence we have over our parents as babies? When we want something that we can’t have we cry and throw a fit until someone gives in. Our parents have options of course, and if they are wise they will resist the temptation, or simply reason out that whatever it is we are asking for would bring increase into our lives.
The dramatic exchange of sales in our infant years is what teaches us the power of influence; crying loudly, or long enough, that mom and dad eventually give in. Little Johnny wants a new bike. Sold. Teenage boy meets teenage girl and wants to take her to the prom. Sold. Going to college and needs a new car. (cha-ching!) Sold.
Wouldn’t you agree that we are born to influence one another right from the beginning of time? How you use that influence will determine your success. Will you decide to work harder on yourself than you do on your job? Will you work on your skills and character long enough to find out where they can take you or will you allow the fear of success to drown out those thoughts?
Take the 30 second VPA quiz
If you were flying in a hot air balloon looking down at yourself, what do you see yourself doing? Who would you be connecting to? Who are you influencing?
This quiz can give you a vision of what you may be called to do, or what you might want to be doing with your life, and wouldn’t now be a GREAT time to see it? I’ll leave you with this thought:
- V = clear VISION of what you are called to do or desire to do most in life – no one else can tell you what that is
- P = the POWER to believe God has already provided you with the strength you need to accomplish it – imagine the possibilities
- A = with inspiration to take ACTION you can do it one step at a time – no matter how big or small – you can accomplish
Education is vital to your success in every day life but truly it’s all in the heart connections of your VPA (Vision~Power~Action) that can move you forward in business, in relationships and in life. If you want to hear more on how you can understand this message read here. If you have time to read more of the precious 7 pillars they are listed below, and as always, I invite you to comment and share if this post serves you. When you share it this might also serve others. Abundant Blessings my friend.
| Kellie Frazier is a Wife and Mother, a Radio Show Host on Motivational Radio, an Author and Speaker of Vision~Power~Action, and a Tele-Seminarian with a passion to make a difference in the lives of others. She teaches visionaries how to connect to their dreams, find inner strength in God, and motivate themselves toward action. If you would like to get her Connecting Secrets Package plus her 5-day Interview Series of "Leaders who Know How to Connect" delivered to your email inbox for FREE, simply fill in your name and email address in the boxes to the right --> |
What’s Your VPA? 3 Key Components to Turn Dreams Into Reality
Welcome! I’m pretty sure you clicked on this link to find out what in the world a VPA is. Well I’m glad you did.
Years ago I worked for a VP of a college who actually evaluated my work performance based on this:
“If you were flying in a hot air balloon above the ground – looking down at yourself – what do you see yourself doing? Who are you connecting with?”
I thought he was joking but he wasn’t. He wanted me to decide what my goals were, what I wanted to do with my life, and my ‘why’ behind doing it, then to submit an essay to him.
THAT was my evaluation? I left the office that night speechless, but feeling relieved knowing I had two weeks to come up with something.
For 2 weeks I tried to write something down and came up with nothing. The night before my evaluation – I couldn’t sleep.
As I reflect on it now I get a good belly laugh out if it. I recall seeing him in my mind and I’m thinking, “Why are you punishing me like this?!” As if I were a 5-yr-old little girl. It occurred to me at that moment that I had no goals in life. I had no idea of what my purpose was and it was startling to see my own reaction and how I had been handling it.
I sat in my stairwell looking up at the vaulted ceilings and thought backwards rather than forwards. The only thing that came to mind was at a very young age I sat in front of my parents television watching ‘Feed the Children’ and I wanted to go feed them.
It seemed to me that was a desire that had never quite left me.
So this is what I wrote down for my employee evaluation:
“I want to feed children that are starving. I see myself in an open field with many little orphan children and I’m playing and laughing with them to celebrate their full bellies.”
I somehow turned it into a poem and felt utterly ridiculous handing it to him the next day. I watched for his reaction, but he simply read it, looked up, and then quietly said, “Is this really what you want to do?”
“Yes.” I said confidently. “I know it isn’t much of a goal, but I never realized I didn’t have any goals until you made me do this exercise. Now that I know, I believe I can do something about it.”
Here is the amazing part – A few months later I was on a plane heading to Honduras to feed, laugh and play with 64 orphaned children! My wonderful husband, Jon, made that trip possible for me but in writing that goal down it helped me to see it before it ever came into existence. I saw how important that was and is for my life.
That’s what started me on a journey of getting real with myself, and with God, over a decade ago. I sought out mentors that were both head and heart connected to learn from and here is what I discovered one needs to have to turn dreams into reality:
- V = clear VISION of what you most desire
- P = a belief to know that God has already provided you with strength and when you tap into that POWER – imagine the possibilities
- A = with inspiration to take ACTION you can do it one step at a time – no matter how big or small – you can accomplish anything
Many People Ask Me How I’ve Managed to Do What I’ve Done…and I Say, “One small step at a time, and with great big faith, I find victory”
In the early part of 2007, I lost 2 family members in two separate tragedies just months apart. Through the emotional turmoil and travel across country to assist family, I chose to close the doors to my successful investing company and wondered what to do with my life.
As the year came to an end, life began to feel ‘normal’ again, until I took a bad fall on black ice and landed directly on my head; injuring my brain and neck.
Seizures controlled my life for the next several months, pain and neurological problems were my closest enemies. Although my wonderful family, and a few employees, were there to help me I consistently felt very alone. I knew I needed courage and a belief that I was not alone no matter how I felt.
There is Always Hope
From that point on, whenever I spoke or took action I fully believed my intentions were like a prayer of gratitude, which played the largest role as to whether or not my life was aligned to my beliefs. Whenever I exercised, I chose to listen to successful people like Alex Mandossian on the MP3 player; on trips I listened to CD’s of Jim Rohn and Les Brown; and when I was home I read as many biographies as I could get my hands on to keep the neurotransmitters in my brain connecting and thinking success. I also spent quiet moments, many times a day, reflecting on my direction and listening to that still small voice we all have inside. This enabled me to connect to others in a much deeper way and still does today.
Lets Use Social Media to Help Me, Help You!
As a speaker and a coach, I meet and train people every year who are on fire for change, and yet, when the engagement or training is over I am not always sure if participants implement what they learn in order to keep moving forward in their lives, which makes follow up extremely important. Learning something new and applying it to your life are two very different things. While many people tell me that their lives and fortunes have changed because of what they’ve learned, it’s the one’s I don’t hear from that make me wonder.
This is the reason why I wrote my recent book, “What’s your VPA Wealth Connection?” that will become a best seller with your help in sharing it. It’s a coaching program that you can do from home, or at my seminars which are very edutaining as I call it. Educational and entertaining at the same time.
With the development of Facebook, I now have a place where I can keep in contact with people from every walk of life and they come together to interact with me and each other. Such a powerful way to continue learning just by chatting with me and each other on Facebook, or by doing organized events like my Random Topic Events.
We pick a topic surrounding creating a dream or Vision for your life, having the internal Power in place to move forward and how important it is to take Action. I also look for guests who want to put up tips each week so if you want to do that let me know. As always, I look forward to supporting you and reading your “real life” experiences.
I hope that you will participate by joining my fan page so we can meet at the designated times. I also encourage you to type in your questions on the welcome page for our radio show so we can answer some of your questions during the show.
Remember I will be doing Live Facebook Chat’s each month so be sure to remember: The more you share and give, the more you receive.
If you’d like a jump start on learning to connect on an emotional level then definitely consider getting your own free copy of “Connecting Secrets Package” (look under the video to the right on this page). We want to help you get in alignment with your own V.P.A. and stay connected through facebook to keep you moving forward!
Abundant Blessings,
PS…..We’ll let you know when we’ll be live on Motivational Radio very soon and believe me, you won’t want to miss the incredible people I have the privilege to interview so they can share their knowledge of V.P.A. with you.
| Kellie Frazier is a Wife and Mother, a Radio Show Host on Motivational Radio, an Author and Speaker of Vision~Power~Action, and a Tele-Seminarian with a passion to make a difference in the lives of others. She teaches visionaries how to connect to their dreams, find inner strength in God, and motivate themselves toward action. If you would like to get her Connecting Secrets Package plus her 5-day Interview Series of "Leaders who Know How to Connect" delivered to your email inbox for FREE, simply fill in your name and email address in the boxes to the right --> |
5 Important Choices You Can Make to Be a Life Long Learner – Success Pillar Seven
It has been my choice lately that when someone says, “Hi How are you?”, that I respond to it with, “I’m in a constant state of victory thank you!”
This will literally stop people in their tracks. They usually look at me and say, “Wow! Really?”
I’m not certain that other cultures do this type of platitudinal exchange; “Hi, how you?” “Fine, how are you?” “Fine.” and yet neither party sincerely cares what the answer is they just go about their day.
I’m not sure that “platitudinal” is an actual word either. Platitude means ‘common place’ so I embellished it to fit. One can do that as a life long learner. I’m certainly not the wordsmith Denis Waitley is as you can see from this wonderful description below.
Pillar 7: Be a Life Long Learner
“You’ve got the vicious cycle or the victor’s circle. Let’s get out of the vicious cycle. We imagine ourselves to be successful. We preplay it by simulation. We rehearse; we drill; we practice; we perform. Sometimes, we perform well. We feedback with reinforcement. Sometimes we do poorly–more input needed–always to the imagined desired result, always to the outcome we want, never punishing ourselves in the downward spiral. Winners imagine through goals, simulate through rehearsal, perform and then feed back.”
–Denis Waitley, excerpted from the 2004 Event, DVD 2 and/or CD 4, Track 7
So here is what I’d like to briefly share on this pillar that Jim Rohn and Chris Widener wrote about in their book Twelve Pillars:
- If you choose to be a life long learner then accept with that choice both victory and defeat. They are both inevitable.
- Feedback in business is vital to our growth or we stay right where we are. You can handle it – and if you can share enthusiasm with your team they can handle it too. As a team you can decide whether or not you want to use what was suggested and let go of the rest.
- Let go of personal criticism and judgment. It is not easy but it is vital to your success. Turn off the noise in your head. Learning comes more quickly from the stillness of life than from the noise in your mind.
- Imagine your goals, go through the rehearsal of what you want to see happen in your life, and then go out and do it. When there is a vision of where you are going, you can find the internal power that motivates you toward action. It’s the nature of our own choosing.
- If you need more inspiration then seek it until you find it. If you need more money then use your creative imagination to increase the lives of others and you will find that to.
When you make the choice to be a life long learner then the only real limit to your success, in truth, is you.
Do you remember when other kids would put the letter “L” to their forehead and shout, “LOSER!” and it would hurt your feelings? Well for us, whenever we do something dumb around here we put the letter “L” to our heads and shout “LEARNER!”
Learning to connect emotionally to your V.P.A. can bring you wealth of multiple kinds so stay tuned for more pillars of success, and if you didn’t read the previous one’s they are linked below.
I am always open to feedback! I would love to hear what you think of these success pillars so far and whether or not you have implemented them, or if they were helpful. Please comment and share below and thank you for taking time to do so in advance. It shows your desire to be a life long learner.
Abundant Blessings,
| Kellie Frazier is a Wife and Mother, a Radio Show Host on Motivational Radio, an Author and Speaker of Vision~Power~Action, and a Tele-Seminarian with a passion to make a difference in the lives of others. She teaches visionaries how to connect to their dreams, find inner strength in God, and motivate themselves toward action. If you would like to get her Connecting Secrets Package plus her 5-day Interview Series of "Leaders who Know How to Connect" delivered to your email inbox for FREE, simply fill in your name and email address in the boxes to the right --> |
“Whatever the Mind Can Conceive and Believe – The Mind Can Achieve” ~NHill
I’d like to think that everyone has read Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” but I know that isn’t the case. If you have, then you know how important his words have been to millions of people around the world, in particular, some of the richest people in the world.
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.”
For those who have believed that loving God means you cannot be wealthy, I’d encourage you to remember that Abraham, David, Jacob and many other Biblical leaders were wealthy. Lets just straighten this out now….It isn’t money that is evil - it is the love for the dollars themselves that create greed and insidious behaviors that get people into trouble.
This video encapsulates Mr. Hill’s mission to open up the minds of all individuals regarding wealth – as financial riches. It is quite fascinating to listen to, but you will only find it fascinating if you are ready to receive.
So what were your beliefs about money before reading Think and Grow Rich?
My belief – that wealthy people were criminals, money was evil, and you should never hang on to it. How long do you think it took me to start attracting it into my life with those types of beliefs?? Lets just say a very long time, but once I chose to take possession of my mind, (meaning stop believing what others had taught me) I could understand that the flow of money (both giving and receiving) is vital to doing the work God (source, the universe) has laid out in front of me to do… then it began to flow.
We all have limiting beliefs to some degree. What limiting beliefs do you have that might be holding you back?
Mr. Hill’s favorite prayer of gratitude became my prayer as well and I’ll share it again with you now in case you want to write it down.
“Oh Divine Providence, I ask not for more riches but for more wisdom to make
wiser use of the riches you gave me at birth; consisting of power and control in
directing my own mind toward whatever ends I desire.”
Here is something I’d like you to consider doing right now…
1. If you haven’t read “Think and Grow Rich” yet but would like to, tell me in the comment box below, and I’ll send you the e-book.
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Entreprenuers – 11 Principles To Live By
Entrepreneurs that practice attitudes of love typically flourish in every aspect of their lives, including finances. The more families focus on these important principles the more they’ll benefit by them.
There is another saying, “What is in the heart eventually comes out of the mouth.” This is biblical truth. Negative thoughts lead to negative feelings. Negative feelings lead to negative reactions, which eventually are voiced to those closest to us.
Below are positive declarations. See if any of the negative messages after the declarations apply to you. Do you live by attitudes of love every day or do you expect others to meet your needs?
1. I HONOR YOU BY HONORING MYSELF, AND OTHERS, WITH LOVING ATTITUDES. Do I have an attitude of gratitude or one of complaining?
2. I VALUE YOUR OPINIONS EVEN WHEN THEY OPPOSE MINE. Do I force my opinions on others? Do I always have to be right? Is it “my way or the highway”?
3. I CONTINUE TO SEEK WAYS TO GROW EMOTIONALLY TO BETTER OUR RELATIONSHIP AND MY OWN HEALTH. Studies show that emotional health leads to better physical health and financial health. As a man thinketh.
4. I AM FORGIVING AND DON’T KEEP A RUNNING SCORE OF WRONG DOINGS. Does bitterness keep you locked up? Do you make a list of those who hurt you and how many times they did it?
5. I PLAN AT LEAST ONE FUN EVENT EACH MONTH AND SMALLER ONES DURING THE WEEK. Have you ever thought about how important it is to set aside 5% of your check each month just to do something fun with your family? Anthropologist and social scientist Margaret Mead presented her cultural findings to the American people stating, “children find inner joy when they are taught to work hard and play hard”. By spending quality time with children working or enjoying fun activities together (eating together, talking, playing games) that the children learned to love and value cultural history.
6. I EXERCISE TO AID IN A HEALTHY MIND AND BODY. Scientists have proven that being unhealthy leads to a short life. Find an exercise routine, even if its only 10 minutes a day. It’s a start!
7. I FIND WAYS TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU. Communication is NOT as natural to most as it is to some. It takes work. Learn through coaching, books, internet, mentors, and keep practicing!
8. I FIND WAYS TO FEEL INSPIRED & GRATEFUL. If you live without imagination, or feeling sorry about what you don’t have, you are missing opportunities to be grateful for what you do have.
9. I SHARE PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES. Insist on accountability, for yourself and your family. If you don’t, then your children will see it, react to it, and learn not to obey when you want them to be accountable for something. They learn from you. Learn what accountability means to you.
10. I WILL FOCUS MY MIND ON MAKING MY SPOUSE’S LIFE EASIER. Do you wake up in the morning to ask yourself, “What would make my spouse’s life easier today?” If you are focused on your self then there will be no room for thoughts of your spouse.
11. I GIVE YOU THE FREEDOM AND SUPPORT YOU NEED TO GROW OR ENHANCE YOUR PERSONAL OR BUSINESS OPPORTUNITIES. Definition of Support = “To sustain, withstand, endure, undergo, to bear or hold up, to collaborate, advocate, to maintain.” Any questions?
If you can get your mind right, your heart will make better decisions relationally and financially. Each of the statements above hold a decision for you to make. If you regularly shy away from responsibilities, even without purposefully deciding to do so, realize you are not alone. Most of human existence has been lived in an unconscious state of mind because of the great disconnect between the head and their heart.
Is it possible to bring the badly needed connection to a conscious level? DEFINITELY…IF… you focus on what you want. A better relationship with God, family, wealth, any of it can be yours if you keep persevering and working toward your goal.
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“I Want To Give You The Desires Of Your Heart”
The Bible says that God wants to give us the desires of our hearts; he didn’t put any restrictions on that statement other than we understand the desires cannot be sinful. What might be one person’s desire, another person might judge as sinful based on their belief system, or religion, as in the eating of meat or working on another man’s Sabbath.
By allowing fear or doubt to cross our minds are we short circuiting what God wants to give us?
What would have happened if every time someone came to Jesus asking for healing He doubted that he was able to provide it for them? Would those miracles have happened?
We are told that we can do greater things than He and yet we can’t get past the fact that it’s actually permissible to have desires. How could we possibly believe that we are capable of doing greater things?
Many do not believe that we are given permission to have desires, or to follow up on those desires with faith and actions. Many feel it is selfish and ungodly to admit a desire that might elevate them to a new level of success, belief or authenticity. Why?
Could it be fear? God said He does not give us a spirit of fear and yet we produce fear for ourselves every day. Afraid of divorce, afraid our kids will stop loving us, afraid of financial pressure, afraid of the economy, afraid of backing the president’s decisions, on and on.
Fear is what collapse societies. Fear has built in us the inability to have pure unadulterated FAITH.
If fear, money or time were no object what would you desire right now? Who would you desire to be? How differently would you desire to live? What would your life look like if you took the time to hear what God might be telling you about your level of faith in Him to give you the desires of your heart?
Dispel your fears by learning how to rise above them, over come them, work through them, release them, what ever you want to call it, just do it. Seek Him with all your heart…with ALL your heart… and you will find new desires fill your soul like a flood, without any fear or doubt, that they can and will come true.
Do you need more inspiration before you can take action in your life? Are you waiting for someone to help you change gradually? That is where Connecting can help you. Life coaching can help you eliminate fear and move you toward what you want – not away from it. Claim your free E-book right now
Domestic Violence
I wrote this article after talking to a woman who kept going back to her abusive husband over and over again. It was apparent that she felt no sense of self worth after being raised in an abusive home, and now she was teaching her two daughters the same behaviors but she couldn’t see it. Until parents can advance in their own personal courage, they can’t teach their children to be responsible or accountable. They can and will perpetuate the fearful patterns of an unworthy lifestyle.
And so, I wrote the following article.
There are two kinds of people: those who want to find a solution to a problem they own, and those who want to find peace from someone else’s problem.
When you grow up in an atmosphere of domestic violence it seems very “normal” to live in an uncontrolled way. Hence, it isn’t surprising that if you came from an abusive home and have ended up in a relationship that is also abusive, that clearly you can’t see how you are responsible for how others treat you or that you are accountable for acting on it. You don’t know what you don’t know.
Most people think they understand what it means to be responsible and what it means to be accountable, when in fact, they were never taught. Abusive homes do not teach responsibility or accountability effectively because it takes a level of civility.
Responsibility is the obligation to act; accountability is the obligation to answer for that act. Until you understand what they both look like, it would be hard for you to see your choices clearly enough to stop running from the problem.
Examples of responsibility:
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A particular obligation by one who is responsible – caring for the needs of children.
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Reliability or dependability – meeting debts or payments.
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Choosing to do something based on one’s own initiative or authority – getting out of a bad situation.
Examples of accountability:
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To demonstrate or exercise the responsibility for a specific act – seeking ways to find help.
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Improving the achieved goal and being rewarded for success – finding an atmosphere that is pain free.
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An obligation to report on following through with responsibilities – getting an accountability partner who can help you stay on track with your goals.
Now that you know the difference, what is your next step? Choose this day to be responsible for a particular action. Act on it before the end of the day. After acting on it, reward yourself for being accountable on performing the action. It all starts with making one decision and doing it to the best of your ability. Repeating the choice with similar actions can, and will, change your life.
7 Keys To Happiness
What if I told you that you hold the key to making this world a better place?
I have a child who is still young enough to be influenced by you. How are you going to influence her? Every single one of us can change the world, can change how the universe is affected by the actions we take.
What actions are you taking to make a difference to the world?
The following information is so valuable, and so key to living, that I needed to recount the principles I’ve heard great speakers talk about.
1. Being Responsible – No one really understands what it means. One side is blaming, the other is saying its not their fault. I’ve had some tragic things happen in my younger years but I see where I made choices that led me to those very things that I didn’t want or like. Being responsible means making better choices.
2. Seek Wisdom – I’m not talking about education. Real wisdom is rare and comes to us by the associations we have and how closely we let it sink in. If you invest in yourself, your time with God, your moments of creative ideas, you’ll see that the one investment you can control is yourself. Seek wisdom with all your heart.
3. Be a Person of Action – If you think this is easy you are not a person of action. A butterfly can move their wings at a vibrational rate of one million flaps per second. One man can make one move and it can make a difference in the entire world. Every single action makes a difference to everyone you know and every one around you.
4. Have a Decided Heart – Talking to your friends and family about your decisions before you make it, then after you make a decision is you analyze it and go back to ask if it was the right decision! Decide what you want and go after it.
5. Choose to Be Happy – you have so much to be grateful for. If you’ve ever traveled to different countries than you know how much you have to be grateful for. I’ve seen children pulling food out of dumpsters to eat and then being beaten by authority for begging to eat. If you’ve washed your hands with clear, clean water today than you have something to be grateful for.
If there is a huge relationship killer that is simple to do it’s this one. Smile while you talk. People can’t help but smile back at you when you are smiling at them while you talk. Practice it! See what you look like. This is one of the biggest secrets to success if you’re willing to choose to be happy when you talk.
6. End Each Night With a Forgiving Spirit – You are not required to trust someone who has hurt you. You can choose to hold on to an unforgiving heart and have your entire body, mind and spirit in collapse. Your relationships will suffer, your business will suffer, everything suffers. Forgiveness brings perspective, a new perspective can bring calm, calm brings ideas and ideas bring success. All from the choice to forgive.
7. Persist Without Exception – If it were easy everyone would be doing it. When coins drop you’ll dive to get them because anything worth going after is worth hitting a wall over. You will never lack in money, time, leadership. It is only ideas that you are lacking. Stay strong and persist.
These simple tips are well worth incorporating in your life.
It will bring back new life to you, not keep you dwelling on the old. It’s not about what your parents did or did not do, whether you were poor or wealthy, or whether you are educated or not. How you think will drastically change how you feel. Take steps today to improve your life by deciding to live your best!
Chances are I don’t know you, but even so, I want you to have enough faith in what you are capable of doing to get you through today with confidence and joy. If I want that for you, as a total stranger, imagine how much more your creator must want for you?
Multiple Sources of Income Taught With Ease
Who taught you about earning a passive income for your family? There are lots of people teaching methods that can often make you feel you only care about the dollar when it comes down to it. This wasn’t true for me and I finally did something about it.
Fortunately, there are people who come along in life that give you new hope and you recognize that their values are in alignment with your own. Their names are Judith Sherven, Jim Sniechowski and Tom Justin.
- They took me step by step through understanding a complex idea and made it easy to earn a passive income.
- They taught me to understand how to show people love and respect while marketing and remembering what you hope to achieve.
- They taught me how to express what I wanted to do for my niche and how to speak about it in a way I feel confident.
- They helped me to understand that you don’t have to be a hard selling kind of personality in order to help others.
They are changing the world of marketing…literally… without pounding it over anyone’s head or making you feel confused or gut wrenched.
Their latest book, “The Heart of Marketing” was written by Jim and Judith who are best selling authors. They’ve been on Oprah, the Today’s show, as hosts of radio shows and yet they still teach in a humble and loving way along with their terrific partner Tom.
For me, kindness is what consistently drives me to do what I do for others. I care about you to, and about the fact that you want to have an income that is ethical, moral and kind. Getting a check in your mailbox, without clocking in at a job you can’t stand, is one of the best feelings one can have. I want you to have this opportunity to see their program if you want another income source.
Just share from your experiences, like what I’m doing right now, and feel confident that you’ve given the best information available to those you care about. Simple! Safe! Affordable! If you DO sign up for this course, let me know and I’ll also send you my free E-book “Why Keep An Elephant On Your Bed”. Those who have read my book have learned a lot about acquiring their dreams instead of letting invisible elephants keep you from them.
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