Leadership Lessons From The Wing and The Bee
As I write this I am sitting quietly at a window seat in an aircraft in Utah on my way to San Francisco. In a few short hours I will be in California meeting up with some of the greatest heart-centered marketers from around the globe. Of course by the time you read this I will already be back in my office feeling grateful for having learned a tremendous amount about great leadership.
I love to observe and learn, which is the reason why I love airports. Everyone is nervously trying to board on time and still keep their cool; eat lunch before their flight, not leave their overstuffed bags unattended, keep their little children entertained or reign their children in, find their ID’s, use the facilities, avoid being randomly selected at security check points and yes, even make fun of people as they walk by like the two grown men were doing next to me. It’s a fascinating look into human behavior.
I boarded the jet taking me into San Francisco and while sitting on the tarmac waiting to taxi down the runway I noticed the breath taking scenery of exquisite snow covered mountains. “No wonder many folks came here with plans to be skiing for the weekend.” I thought.
I moved my vision from the scenery down to the wing of the plane where I noticed a bee that had landed on the wing. He flew from wet spot to wet spot as if he was looking for something specific but not finding it. He looked determined that’s for sure. After a few minutes of not finding whatever it was he looked for he suddenly flew straight up about two feet only to land on the other side of the wing and back again. He was aggressively looking for something but unable to find it or, maybe he didn’t really know what he was looking for but thought the grass might be greener on the other side of the wing?
I thought how interesting it is that this bee’s aggressive dance with the wing of the plane is much like a human being searching for that one particular ‘thing’ in life that brings happiness. Whether young or old, life often finds most people aggressively going through life searching for something but not finding it.
I wanted to keep my eye on the bee just to see how long he could actually hold on while we taxied down the runway. To my amazement he clung on to the wing of the plane while we increased speed and began to walk staggeringly slow toward the front of the wing. His wings and body were nearly vertical due to the wind. I was stunned!
His wings fluttered straight up and why he clung on I have no idea. Finally, he forced his body back down and took a leap forward into the head wind rather than backward, which would have been so much easier. It looked as if he jumped off the front of the wing then sailed underneath in one swoop.
I wondered, did he have a plan? Did he know this plane would be air born soon and he chose to risk everything to see if he could fly against the current? Did he survive?
What about you? Are you willing to risk everything to fly against the current? Do you have a plan? Are you like the bee who wants to do it his way, aggressively moving from one place to the next and yet not finding what you are looking for?
Whatever it is you are trying to accomplish there are likely people who have been there and done that. People who could make your journey much easier if you asked for help. Finding them is not as difficult as you might think. You don’t have to aggressively go it alone. To find a master in your field you can:
- Get clear about your idea first
- Find out whether or not there is a need for it
- Make a plan about what it looks like
- Seek others who are in the same field by making solid connections through networking
- Ask how others made it work through interviewing them or taking them to lunch
- Remember there is enough space for everyone
- Enjoy your uniqueness, and your idea, by allowing it to flow with the current not against it
This is all about setting intentions. You may feel like you are fighting an unknown force, but in truth the only force you might fighting is the face in the mirror. Learning to be the best you can be takes your mind setting the intention, your heart creating the feeling of the intention and hands to make the intention work.
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The 4:8 Principle – Connect to Your Focus?
Where do you focus your attention? Is it on prosperity, good health, love and abundance or is it on ‘not enough’ – as in not enough time, not enough money, not enough energy, food, etc?
Some will say that thinking about what you don’t have in life is simply being ‘realistic’. But I say, if your focus were different, you would see the world in a whole new way.
It’s been said that the subconscious cannot distinguish the difference between imagination and reality. So what kind of “reality” do you want in your mind? What if everyone you met exampled this…
…whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things. Phillipians 4:8
This is a clear description of what to connect your focus on and how we can develop character that is noble, just, pure and true. So again I ask you, what do you focus on?
Below is an example of what our brains tell us, and re-tells us when we’re focused on the negatives and the ‘not enough’s’ in life. The more you focus on what your don’t have, the more you relinquish your ability to handle situations in that frame of mind.
NEGATIVES
No one understands me.
I’m living proof of Murphy’s Law.
I’m never going to do this right.
That’s just my luck.
I have to accept my limitations.
I can’t afford this.
It’s never going to work out.
Nothing good ever happens to me.
POSITIVES
I am accepted and loved.
I expect the best, and it shows!
I am making so much progress!
God has great plans for me!
I am unstoppable!
I’ll figure out how to earn it
I ask, and I receive
I take deliberate steps to achieve my goal
By consistently directing your thoughts towards greater opportunities in your life, you will learn to practice gratitude for what you already have, money, family, house, food, etc. This doesn’t mean that if you merely think positive life will be a piece of cake. This means it will take consistent work on your part to bring your focus into a place that brings you internal joy. In doing so, you can train your subconscious to understand that you are already living in hope and abundance.
I recall a story of an elderly man who mentored a very angry young boy. He invited the boy to go up a mountain trail saying that when they got to their destination (not saying where that was specifically) they would find what they were looking for.
The hike took over the three hours but on the way up, the boy was saying how beautiful the views were, how pretty the day was, how good the sun felt on his back, how marvelous the skies looked, and how amazing the wild animals were. After the third hour of climbing, the man turned to the boy and said, “Okay we’re here.”
The boy looked around for a few moments, realizing they weren’t at the top yet. Expecting to see a much greater scenery or landscape, he looked around but saw nothing special in this spot.
The boy scowled and asked, “What were we suppose to find here? Did we climb all this way for nothing?!”
The old man smiled and softly replied, “When you expected to see something at the end of your journey, you felt disappointed because you couldn’t find it. While you were on the journey you saw things you couldn’t see before and yet you seemed to be very happy all along the trail. You see, all along the path of gratitude is where you will find your true happiness. It’s rarely at the end of any one’s journey.”
What you focus on expands. So practice blessing and loving other people instead of envying them. If you want to be wealthy, then focus on the journey the wealthy person traveled to get there but remember that wealth isn’t just in the value of money. If you want healthier, happier, relationships then seek answers from those whose journey is sincerely filled with deep gratitude, not perfection. Life as we know it will always be perfectly imperfect.
A New Definition for Leadership – Be True To You!
I’m giving Leadership a NEW DEFINITION.
Lead·er·ship - [lee-der-ship] – The ability to be true to yourself no matter what age, race, sex or economic standing and living so that you are able to lead a potent life and influencing others in a positive way without the worry of what others will think.
This video is only a few minutes long but it happens to be so true to my definition that I wanted to post it for you to see. This is the essence of leadership and follower-ship in my opinion. After you’ve seen it, please comment below if you agree with my new definition or not. Be true to YOU!
Leadership Lessons From a Dancing Guy Is Fabulous and So Simple!
I’ve often said; you need to learn to be a servant in order to know how to lead; that you have to follow someone in order to know how to lead; and that you need to have courage in order to stand up and lead; but one thing I have never said was in order to lead you must be easy to follow. So simple and yet so over-looked!
This video was created by my friend Derek Sivers and I’ve linked to his site so you can read the transcript if need be. He gives us a fabulous narrative on how leadership is over-glorified, and by being a follower, you can sometimes transform someone into a leader.
I share it because it’s important to note that those who are afraid to be different and stand out of a crowd can also be a follower until one day they become transformed by someone following. Please leave your thoughts below before you go.
I appreciate your willingness to encourage others to share and dare to be easy to follow, different, intentional, and unafraid to stand out of a crowd.
Oprah Implores Parents To Understand The RED FLAGS Of Child Molesting
INSIDE THE MIND OF A CHILD ABUSER
This is no one’s favorite subject, but I found this interview to be one of the all time BEST for Oprah. She will be posting this piece on her website but keep reading to find out why it may very well be her most life altering show…
In meeting with four child molesters from different parts of the country, and currently in rehab for child molestation, Oprah is pleading with parents saying “If you can withhold judgment, and really listen to what they are saying, they will teach you how to watch out for them.”
These men, David, Derek, Lee and Robert, openly admitted their offenses. Each of them are human, each of them acted out in a sinful, deplorable manner, and yet each of them are wanting to help save other victims by opening the eyes of the parents who might listen to them.
Will you be one of those parents?
Sexual predators groom their victims. Here is what these four abusers listed as warning signs of a possible situation for grooming the future abuse:
1. Men (or women) spending more time with children than with adults, particularly at a party or gathering.
2. Men (or women) who give massages or back and foot rubs often.
3. Men (or women) who cuddle more than normal.
4. Men (or women) who listen intently to a child to build trust as they would to someone they would want to date.
I have given 5 years of my life to teach others how to connect emotionally to each other as couples, and specifically to their kids. If you understand what is being said by these men, then you will see and hear that this emotional connection can prevent your son or daughter from being a victim.
These men reportedly looked for:
1. Children who need attention and who will trust others to give it and often it’s a relative or family friend.
2. Kids who are angry at their parents and who wanted to retaliate. Kids whose parents are not emotionally connected to them.
3. Kids who would not tell on them because they wanted validation. The men all believed sex will help the child feel better about him or herself and at the same time give them companionship.
These words carry powerfully rich choices for you as parents.
Do you know if you are emotionally connected to your kids? Would you know how, or where, to start being more emotionally connected to them? Most people do not – so you are not alone. This is why I am developing programs to help assist all parents in this way.
Oprah affirmed that sexual abuse “Changes who you are.” There are very few women that I know today who haven’t been introduced to some form of sexual alteration in their life, myself included. The truth is, it isn’t who you are, but it can determine who you become if you aren’t aware of how to move beyond it.
Being afraid is not the same as being aware! Being afraid perpetuates the victim mentality. It is becoming aware, and choosing a destination from a place of logic and compassion that can bring healing. I can’t explain what this means in a short post but I know it is truth.
Dave (one of the abusers) spoke more truth in this one statement that made Oprah feel her 2-hour interview was worth the time. He said, “I killed who she (his victim) could have been. Just because she is walking around doesn’t mean she’s okay.”
As Oprah stated, “When a child is abused it kills their spirit.” This goes for both genders.
We wonder why so many kids are provocative and engaged in sexual promiscuity? Yet if we stopped to find out what happened to them in their past we would no longer wonder. Ask a serial killer why he kills and he will not be able to tell you. Ask him about his childhood and you will find unspeakable atrocities perpetrated against him as a child, only to him it was “normal”.
I say when you learn to love your child, spouse, friend, neighbor, on an emotional and spiritual level you can help lift their spirit beyond victim-hood, beyond what they know to be ‘normal’. To do this takes loving yourself both emotionally and spiritually.
I have a hero. Her family was murdered in front of her eyes and she was raped and tortured for hours at the age of 10. She is my hero because she could have chosen death from paralyzing fear and depression. Instead she has moved beyond fear without letting this situation determine who she is becoming. Her parents were emotionally connected to her before their deaths. I know this because they were good friends of mine and she is now thriving and living again.
So for all the Melissa’s in life, and for all the Oprah’s in life, and for all the Kellie’s in life, seek out ways to be a hero for yourself no matter how old you are. Tell someone if you are facing an abusive situation or have lived with victimization, but more than that we want you to understand something and to say it aloud as often as you need to until you believe it: “IT WAS NOT MY FAULT.”
Please comment and share on Twitter or Facebook so we can encourage all parents to be aware of the importance of being emotionally connected to their kids.
Will you also please visit this site and let me know if you are interested in knowing how to become more connected to your own kids on an emotional and spiritual level?
- 1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 18. ACE Study – Prevalence – Adverse Childhood Experiences
- 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 18. ACE Study – Prevalence – Adverse Childhood Experiences
- 1 in 5 children are solicited sexually while on the internet. Finkelhor, D., Mitchell, K., & Wolak, J. (2001, March). Highlights of the youth internet safety survey. US Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention.
- Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under. Snyder, H N. (2000). Sexual assault of young children as reported to law enforcement: Victim, incident, and offender characteristics. National Center for Juvenile Justice, U.S. Department of Justice
Public Speaking Tips That Make A Lasting Connection
Have you been taught that speaking intellectually is all that is needed while presenting to your audience? We’ve all heard a number of people who are not connected to their hearts while speaking, and sadly, the great disconnect happens. If you are a speaker who is “disconnected” this will be evident to your audience as well.
Here are some questions to determine how well you hold the attention of your audience as a public speaker.
1. When you take a break do people applaud your return in a rousing way?
2. Are audience members drawn to you during breaks or after you are done speaking?
3. How many of them want to become your student, client or member after your presentation?
4. How many calls do you receive to do another presentation or to tell you how much they enjoyed your presentation?
If you are connected to your heart, you will be connected to your audience. If you are connected to your audience, they will be connected to you.
Below are ways in which you can take time to connect to your heart before you present.
1. Spend time in quiet relaxation and reflection before speaking. Clear your mind to where you can hear yourself breathe.
2. Feel your topic. Remember how it can help others and how it’s helped you. Feel how others will increase by what you are going to share with them and see it happening in your mind’s eye.
3. Be grateful and happy that you have studied it, learned it and now you can teach it to others. Have a faith that brings about a new burst of confidence.
4. Be yourself, whether dry or funny, just be who you are and speak from your heart.
5. Appreciate the opportunity to be there and openly show your appreciation to your audience.
The great disconnect is non-discriminating and it expands around the globe. This is why there are so many would-be great speakers disconnected from the abundance in their lives as well as their audiences. Without a heart connection, the brain will have intellectual challenges because the brain is the control center that shoots your emotions into action.
It’s time for you to gain more supportive actions by moving into your heart to become the best possible speaker or presenter you can be. If you learn to connect to your heart, it’ll change much more than just your speaking ability, it can change your life.
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Do I “Have” To Emotionally Connect On Social Media Sites?
An individual on my Tele-Seminar calls asked:
“How do you connect with so many people on Social Media at the same time and still have relationships?”
Each of us can determine what type of relationship choices we’re going to make. First understand that you DO have choices.
If I make this statement: “I have to gain more followers on Twitter and Facebook or I won’t be well known among my colleagues or able to sell my products.” Then I have already put pressure on myself to force my way into the lives of others and will end up making huge social media mistakes!
Whenever you say “I have to” do something or “I need to” do something, you remove your ability to make the choice for yourself. Say, I “choose” to because I want to not because I have to. Choice allows you the freedom to feel more empowered. Even the creator gave us the freedom of choice – so give yourself permission to choose!
In my own social media circles I choose to reach out to everyone as though they were my closest friends. Does that mean I am close friends to all of them? No, it’s not possible when I have thousands of followers between Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and so on. I am selective with those I choose to be close in relationship with but I still reach out to everyone in a friendly and caring way. Those relationships that I choose to nurture I do so by staying in personal contact with.
The last thing I want to do is make all my social media connections transactional; meaning look at them as though they are only there to gain more clients or more business through.
When I first started out, because I believed what others told me about social media, I felt as you do, that it was over whelming and I couldn’t keep up. I was also taught to promote to my followers rather than be concerned about relationships. This will bring you conditional success. Sustainable success is where you choose, and where you will grow.
It wasn’t until I turned my conditioning around and began bringing great value to my social media followers that I understood how easy it was to sell because they believed in what I was doing and more to the point – so did I.
I would encourage you to do what feels right to you, but first and foremost give yourself permission to choose, (in every area of your life) and you will find the pressure of feeling like you have to do anything start to dismantle. I’d also encourage you to bring as much value to your followers as you can. Share quotes, find news worthy information, a great inspirational video, a link on occasion to your posts or products.
You will eventually see that you no longer have to “try” to be friends with everyone, you automatically become so when you contribute to their well being in what you say and do.
How To Connect With Leaders Who Will Inspire You Both Emotionally & Spiritually
I am a Tele-Seminarian, which simply means that I teach ‘one on many’ over the telephone every month. It also means I interview leaders from all over the world by phone, or via Skype, record the calls and play them for my community. Through my ASK page I receive many questions like;
“How do I connect with leaders who will inspire me both emotionally and spiritually?”
It’s important to understand that not everyone is going to believe the same things you do and accepting that will help you in your quest to find great leaders to learn from. You will not grow emotionally or spiritually if you close the door of your heart just because someone doesn’t believe the same as you.
Let me give you a good example of this. I have a mentor named Alex Mandossian. Alex is one of the most highly sought after, and brilliant, instructors in the field of tele-seminars. He not only teaches people how to make a living by using your voice, he also teaches both emotional and spiritual growth in his lessons.
Alex was doing a call to promote his upcoming course. At that time in my life I felt anyone promoting anything to me was a sheer waste of time and I was not interested. A friend told me about his call one night so I got on but I didn’t stay on very long. I enjoyed listening to Alex talk and he had inspiring ideas but the minute he started talking about his course, I hung up because I didn’t want hear a sales pitch on the telephone.
When I spoke to my friend the very next day, she asked me what I thought of the call. I explained that I hung up before he got to the sales pitch.
She said, “Hmmm…you know Kellie, sometimes the things we don’t want to hear are the very same things we must hear. Maybe if you just gave him a chance you might find out that it’s something there that could change your life.”
Not wanting her to be right, because my ego had gotten in the way, I told her I would give Alex another chance but that I had no intention of buying into his program.
Little did I know, I would, I did… and it did indeed change my life, but it wasn’t Alex or his course that changed my life, it was me making the choice to take a risk and do something I believed and felt that I could do.
I don’t do teleseminars the same way Alex does because we have different businesses, but I have learned from the best and I’ve made it my own.
So I hope that helps you to understand that there are people out there who can and will inspire you, on line, at BNI meetings, at luncheons, on talk shows, on radio, in fact there are more free interviews on line right now than any other time in history.
I’d suggest you go on youtube and type in the words, INSPIRATIONAL SPEECHES and you’ll find names like Jim Rohn, Les Brown, Randy Pausch, to name a few.
There are people from all over the world who want to contribute to your growth and provide you with value just like I do. My intention is that you learn to leave your own legacy by uplifting others in your own way. Listen to that still small voice within and you will connect both logic with compassion, gain wisdom and knowledge, and learn to share with others in a way that is fulfilling.
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Have You Wondered What Your Government Is Doing To Help Haiti?
My son Brady is a Staff Sargent in the United States Air Force. In this photo he is doing what he loves, and when I think of him I hear his well-written music in my mind, so this image is one of my favorites.
Brady has fought in Iraq and has seen things you and I wouldn’t want to even dream about. War takes it’s tole on everyone, but it has not taken away the very big heart he has had since he was quite young.
There have been many times where I wish I could go back and raise my kids all over again, and correct the many mistakes I made as a parent, but then I realize that if I did that then Brady wouldn’t be who he is today and leading in such amazing ways.
He was recently sent to Haiti on a mission to assist Haitians recover during the aftermath of the earthquake. Below is a story of his first flight there. I asked him if I could share his experience with my readers and he agreed. I have one request; please donate wherever you can and whenever you can to help this mission. Haiti will need help for a very, very long time.
To my son…You are a leader. I love you very much.
What I do for Haiti, and for Myself…
Flying in to Port Au Prince was like flying into a war zone. Mass devastation, yet the local grounds and natural land formations seemed untouched.
As we got closer to touching down, they warned us that it was going to be an abrupt stop. That was an understatement. The rear of the plane hit the tarmack with the smoothest of ease…but as the wheels began to grip, the front end slammed into the ground. The pilot hit those breaks with what seemed like every ounce of strength he had. You could smell the rubber coming off the wheels as we roared down the runway. He threw on the reverse thrusters, improving our stopping power even more.
Ever been shot out of a cannon into a brick wall? Me either, but I bet it was pretty close to this. As the flying barge quickly (and thankfully) lost momentum, the pilot came over the loud speaker saying he was sorry for the quick stop but he was afraid he would run off the runway…(what a great feeling of security).
During the whole ordeal, I heard the faint whisper of a stewardess in my mind “contents may have shifted during flight…” 
Everything was everywhere…nearly losing 6 pallets of high stacked water and 4 pallets of food to what would have been a watery mess in the belly of the aircraft. I had to gather my belongings up, which had become UFOs during the landing, from the front of the giant open bay.
As we FINALLY came to a stop, engines still blaring, we dropped the aft-hatch of the Globemaster. What we saw were things I’ve only seen in movies before…people sitting/laying everywhere. Helos taking off and landing in any open spot on the fields adjacent to the runway and taxiways, crews rushing to meet the injured people on the ground. Planes of all types and other Helos flying overhead in search of others need aid…there seemed to be absolute mass caos. I swallowed hard and stepped off the plane.
I was met by a thousand staring faces. They all seemed to have the same questioning look of ‘what were we doing there’ and ‘do we have any food?’ Most seemed to be worried about being able to leave the country while others pointed to the food and water now being offloaded from the rear of the plane.
It took all of about 2 seconds before I noticed all the cameras…CNN and other world news agencies feverishly working to capture the pain and anguish of the Haitian peoples faces…it killed me. No hesitation…no common courtesy or decency to leave the people be…just cameras all up in their pain and suffering…inches away from their faces. What happened to being here to help? It seemed as though they were there more for the story and a shot at getting that ‘network’ position. As I stood guard at the front door of the plane, I counted the cameras I could see…97 cameras in a 150 ft gap…INSANE!!! I just don’t get it sometimes…
I stood guard outside for the AC for a little over an hour…engines still roaring…until it was time to board. Watching those lucky few faces shine, as though they won the lottery, climb onto the plane was one of the best rewards i could have asked for. It wasn’t the same as rebuilding their house or church, or bringing their animals back to life, but it sure was a close damn second. I didn’t really know what to expect when I volunteered for these missions but I sure figured out why real quick.
As we taxied out to the runway, there was a rabid excitement in the childrens faces. For some, it was their first plane ride…ever…for others, it was the last time they’d ever see the place they called home. At any rate, they were smiling.
Once we were airborn, we handed out the little bit of food and water we had on board…can you imagine…being so hungry and thirsty and the first real sustinance you get is a variety of cookies and powerade…nice. What a ‘Welcome to America’ showing…lol! Needless to say, the kids were STILL smiling.
The sides of the plane were the only seats available, as seen in this picture. These people are all on the floor. We took as many as we could fit.
They gathered up any and every little thing they could possibly find. The Haitians were apprehensive at first but eased their nerves when they saw more food waiting for them just off the back end of the plane. I carried an orphan out and put him down next to one of the female agents. As soon as his feet hit the ground, he squeezed my neck with all his might and took off running towards the food line.
The trip had come full circle for me. What transformed from an early wake-up and just another mission, turned out to be one of the greatest days of my life. I’m honored to do the work I do. I’m honored to have to opportunity…I love being an American.
Have a great day everybody. I hope this provides a little hope for you for our nation and for the world.
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Does Being Emotional Serve You Well? Try Being Emotionally Connected And See What Happens!
Someone asked me, What does it mean to be “emotionally connected”?
If you find yourself talking to someone who knows how to draw you in, you get a feeling of being valued, then you know what its like to be emotionally connected.
Your emotional health factor plays a very large role in all healthy relationships. If you are not emotionally connected to your spouse for instance, then your sex life will be at risk for becoming mechanical. Living this way for most becomes such a habit that you no longer notice if you are emotionally connected to your spouse or not. Neither of you have any other expectation because it’s ‘normal’ and conditioned, therefore being disconnected is satisfactory to you.
What if you are in business? If you are not emotionally connected to anyone in your work then your days will be filled with transactional conversations. Unfortunately none of them will mean anything but dollars to you. Sure, the money feels great, but there might still be an emptiness lingering around your heart that you can’t explain.
If you are an intellectually locked person, then there will be an element of “You scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours” in everything you do. People may avoid you because of it. This disconnect between your head and heart may translate into thoughts like bribing your kids to do their chores, telling your wife you’ll let her go shopping if you get to watch the football game all day Sunday, letting your neighbor borrow something because you know you’ll get something out of it. Your entire life may be transactional, mechanical and very un-fulfilling.
Being emotionally connected means to connect both logic and compassion. It means you are transparent, open, honest and can take criticism. It means you are willing to allow yourself time to slow down, to talk to those around you as if you really care about what they are saying. Being emotionally connected means showing a genuine interest in the lives of other people whether at work or at home.
Re-connecting would bring about tremendous healing but most people would prefer their comfortable state of nurturing the pain as opposed to connecting to freedom, but again, and of course its also the ‘how’ that may be missing.
There is no time like the present to begin learning. My free book, “Why Keep An Elephant On Your Bed” can help you get started, (you sign up for it on the right) but just setting the intention in your mind to start being more emotionally connected from this point forward will help you increase your personal value.
We all have potential to enjoy MARVELOUS relationships no matter who we are….and it all depends on how ‘potent’ you are being in your relationships and how well you define emotional connectedness for yourself. Love involves you, but it’s not always about you.
I hope that answers the question.
