On my last Question and Answer session a Dad said: “I want to affirm my children but negative thinking controls me, what’s the best solution for me to control it, and how do I know if I’m no longer struggling with it?” Eian, IN
Negative thinking adults produce negative children. Most children would like to have someone to validate and affirm them so this is a great question. Negative thinking affects humanity, not only this Dad.
Let’s talk about our thoughts for just a moment. There are times when our mind rolls out a plethora of negative thinking we’ll call mind trash. Mind trash tells us all the negative things we can think to remind ourselves, about ourselves, and about others.
“What an idiot!” “Can’t you do anything right?” “You should have known better than this!”
Here’s a very common one…“I’ll never measure up!”
The negative thoughts go on and on and to those who have been raised in a negative environment it is perfectly acceptable, normal and often even funny. Unless we know how to remove negative thinking from our lives, permanently, those thoughts will creep back in time and time again.
What you might not realize is that negative thinking creates a self-focused life. We don’t need to look any further than the beginning of God’s word to see the damage negativity can cause among people.
Christ rebuked Peter, and even called him Satan, because he was thinking negatively about the future of what was to come.
You might work during the day and feel you can’t make the time to carry a pen and paper around with you to jot down your thoughts every hour, and that’s okay. If you ask the Holy Spirit to renew your mind, you can be sure positivity will become your new lifestyle.
Negative thoughts lead to; doubt, resentments, bitterness and can eventually create depression, low self esteem anorexia, and a host of other problems or disorders that the medical field adapts new medicines for. I call these types of thoughts the food where parasites feed. It’s self focused and bleeds over into our kids lives. If an enemy is cunning and out to destroy you (and your kids) then what better place to start than in your mind?
The second part of Eian’s question was “How do I know when I am no longer struggling with negative thinking?” The answer to that is by living with an attitude of gratitude every day. There is nothing like it. When you can wake up every day thankful for everything you have; money (no matter the amount) job, house, children, food, etc, and for everything you will have in your life, including the trials, you will know you have kicked the habit of negative thinking for good.
Negative people are no fun to be around…positive thinkers are sought after individuals and their grateful heart is completely contagious! It is not a matter of IF you have days when you fall, it’s a matter of when you have days that you fall. Its okay, be aware of it, ask for forgiveness and get back on track with asking the Holy Spirit to renew your mind. Seek it with all your heart and you will find it.
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