During a drive through South Carolina, my husband and I passed numerous crops of corn. I began taking notice of a handful of stalks that stood a foot or two higher than the average five foot plant.
“Out of the millions of seeds that were planted in this field,” I wondered, “Why would only a handful grow so much taller than the rest?”
Then I saw one that literally made both of our eyes pop open! “WOW! How is that possible!” I said out loud.
We pulled our BMW to a complete stop directly in front of the field. As I stepped out of the car to see if my eyes were deceiving me, the 10 or 11 foot tall plant swayed in my direction, as if to say a special hello. I stood there in amazement for two reasons.
1. I was literally just asking myself what photo I could use for my next blog post and the minute the giant stalk swayed, I knew it would be a perfect fit.
2. I was in complete awe of this proud giant, who I nicknamed “Napoleon” but don’t ask me why. This guy was so grand in stature I couldn’t help myself.
Laugh if you must, but Napoleon was the perfect example of what it means to have a significant advantage over all the others in his community. He seemed quite content to stand watch over the mini’s beneath him. Taking his photo (though it truly doesn’t do him justice) would serve as a reminder to those who read this post and understand.
I stood there thinking that if you had told the farmer that one day this fine seed would have one single stalk that would grow double the size of the others he may have challenged that thought. Don’t get me wrong, plenty of corn stalks grow taller than the rest, but Napoleon… he seemed to accept his unalienable right to tower like none other.
Are some of us like Napoleon?
Are we meant to rise above all the rest from the moment we are conceived?
Is there something in your DNA that says you’ll rise to the top no matter how many times you may get tossed about by the storms of life?
Are there certain unalienable rights, even in a world where things seem so unjust sometimes, that are still waiting for you?
Unalienable rights are inseparable from us: they are part of our humanity in which we can grow taller than the rest, mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, etc.
How do I know this?
My mom said she knew I was different from the moment I was born. She believed that my uniqueness came from being born on Christmas day. People would consistently comment how unfortunate it was to share my special day, but for me it brought equal and often greater opportunities to love and be loved. I remember thinking everyone should have to share their birthday’s with the world so they could experience what I did every year. My barometer for compassion was off the charts back then.
My three best friends were deaf, blind and severely handicapped. I didn’t understand racial issues or care about gender differences. I didn’t like to see anyone hurt mentally, physically or emotionally. I would often hear, “Don’t be so sensitive.” “You care too much.”. You’re the ‘touchy feely’ kind no one likes to be around.”
These type of statements made me feel like a weak human being, that I was diseased and not fit for living in a world that others seemed to understand significantly different than I did. Each time I was wounded. I would shut off my emotions and eventually believed I had no business caring about others.
Can we rise above no matter who we are or does it take a special seed to grow us into who we become? This may sound similar to the age old question; are leaders born or created?
Let’s see what conclusions you draw…
While choosing logic over compassion, I became a serious goal setter at Fifteen years of age. After taking two years of dental courses I graduated high school at age Seventeen. I moved out that summer into an apartment, secured a full-time job in a dental office, bought my first car, (a bright yellow Ford Mustang that I often wished I still had) and started my career. I felt proud of accomplishing these goals, but it was all based on what I was told I needed to do. Life felt so out of alignment.
I got married, worked for several years, had children, worked in their schools, then on to a university for eight years where I found myself incredibly unhappy. It wasn’t until my supervisor told me he would base my performance and evaluation on how I answered one simple question. “If you were flying in a hot air balloon looking down at yourself below, what would you be doing?”
At first I thought he had gone mad. Then I got mad. All the painful criticism growing up flooded my mind. It took me weeks to answer his question because I had pushed away any thoughts of what I truly wanted. I didn’t even know who I was anymore.
When I finally did answer his question I felt stupid, knowing he would laugh or say similar things I’d heard my entire life. Mustering up the courage I told him that I saw myself at an orphanage in the mountains caring for one hundred children that were all around me. I wanted them to feel loved and accepted, which by the way was exactly what I wanted for myself.
A few months later this goal was achieved by my flying to Honduras to stay at an orphanage among the mountains. For the first time in my adult life I felt ALIVE again! That was back in 1998.
Far greater than the achievement of being at the orphanage was what had happened in my heart (what I call my #1 brain). That single question unlocked my heart and re-engaged with my mind (what I call my #2 brain). I returned to my job where nothing seemed the same anymore. I realized I had the unalienable right to feel what was in me, and no one could ever take that away from me again.
This significant advantage of re-connecting my head and heart helped me obtain and sustain massive personal growth. I’ve since published books, spoken on stages I never dreamed I would, and coached clients who also want that significant advantage. Those who have it now soar in their personal and professional lives.
Do you believe in your unalienable rights? Thomas Jefferson did when he crafted the Declaration of Independence. He believed we were created with God-given rights to personal freedom and so do I. These rights are permanent and personal to each one of us.
To engage these rights it is imperative to call upon both brains; your head and your heart.
Here are a few things to consider;
- The Significant Advantage is your God-given Unalienable Rights
- We each have a purpose and its wise to discover what that is to live fulfilled
- An unhealthy philosophy can keep you from achieving goals
- Gratitude and generosity make up sustainability
- You’ve got to forgive from your head and heart to be emotionally free
- If you live materialistically, enough will rarely be enough
- Financial freedom is attainable
You too have been given the ability to be greater than you ever dreamed, smarter than you ever imagined and to rise higher than you ever thought possible. Its time to build your foundation and connect your head to your heart. Its high time we ALL lived who we were meant to be starting today.
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